Improving your sexual confidence

Man or woman, anyone can lack confidence in their lives; and so it seems, lacking sexual confidence is quite common. Improving your sexual confidence is crucial to improving your sex life.

Are you uptight about sex, insecure about your body or just plain worried that you’re not very good at it, then building sexual confidence is a prerequisite to enjoying yourself more.

Improving your sexual confidence

Firstly, if you’re feeling very lacklustre about your physical appearance – male or female, it’s unlikely you’re having a great sex life.

If you’re feeling less like having sex than you used to, ask yourself what improvements you need to make to make yourself feel a lot sexier. Have you gained unwanted weight recently?  Does your body feel out of shape and you want to keep it under wraps?  Or maybe it’s just you need to shave your legs and paint your toes.  Honestly, sometimes small changes give you a big boost and make you feel more like a super sexual being once again.

Or maybe you think that having bigger/firmer/smaller boobs would improve your sex life. Who am I to sneer at those who think that fiddling with their body parts will make a difference to their sexual confidence?

But beware; Your goal is sexual confidence

If it is your partner who wants you to have surgery, you won’t gain sexual confidence. And if you’ve had a boob job already I very much doubt that having smoother thighs will make the difference.  Save the pain and risks and do some exercise instead, a proven way to improve your overall confidence, looks and health.  Plus of course, your mood.

And if you’re a guy, please don’t ever waste your money on “penis pills” that you see advertised. They don’t work and even surgery would only make a tiny difference, or break things altogether!  I can’t say for sure that women never worry about penis size; as they sometimes do. But it would be a very unusual woman who chucked a guy out of bed because his penis didn’t live up to a previous partners.  If your penis is smaller than average (which would be anything less than five inches erect), you can be kinder, smarter, funnier – and better in bed than other men.  Unfair I know, but life isn’t fair. And you’ll have more fun, I promise.

So what does work?

Change your perception

Do what it takes to feel as attractive as you can. Start talking yourself up:

• I’m happy
• I look great
• I’m gorgeous

Repeat your affirmations and pay attention to yourself.

Look in a mirror

As we get older or busier we spend less time looking in the mirror. A mistake. Look in a full length mirror. See yourself naked. Look at yourself dressed. Spend time pampering and preening. Throw out everything that doesn’t make you look brilliant even if it leaves you with 3 items of clothing!

Spend time naked

Reacquaint yourself with your body and get back in touch with your sexual self.

Devote an hour a week to loving your body

And if pampering yourself isn’t your thing, start exercising, go to a massage therapist or go for reflexology.  Anything that gets you back in touch with that thing you need for sex – your body.

Work on feeling more sexual every day. Think of yourself as a powerfully sexual person. Look for opportunities to make life more sensual.

Flirt!